Chapter 8: Only Child-A Singular Solution

Summary

• Only children are not inherently more spoiled, selfish, lonely or emotionally troubled as many believe. They are often more creative, well-adjusted, and get along better with peers, according to research.
• The myth of an unhappy and lonely only child persists due to past generations' stigmatization of only children, past circumstances forcing the one-child status upon parents, and the perpetuation of old wives' tales.
• Margaret Mead suggests that the one-child family is ideal for the future, especially for balancing motherhood and career.
• Only children may have benefits for a two-career couple and the parents' work/life balance. Parents of an only child may cherish their unique time with them and find fewer issues with needing quiet, planning family activities, and handling distractions.
• Disadvantages to having an only child could include addressing their need for companionship or managing undivided parental attention. However, solutions include arranging social interactions for the child and promoting their independence.
• Considering a second child requires evaluating the potential increase in stress and workload, willingness to be more tied down, and assessing expectations of what the second child can offer.
• Couples should not consider a second child because they desire a younger child to care for, a significant life change, pressure from others, belief in only child stereotypes, or desire for a child of the opposite sex.
• Parental desires for a child of the opposite sex may complicate family planning, as they may derive from hidden agendas about expected gender roles.
• Adding a third child might strain family finances and necessitate more time spent at home, which families should consider given their personal preferences and circumstances.
• Making a firm and appropriate decision about the size of a family is crucial, as ignoring realities like financial stability in favor of abstract desires may lead to struggles and regrets.
• Couples should be proactive and realistic in their planning, considering their genuine ability to handle a new child financially and emotionally. They should also be prepared to adjust when their family planning does not go as expected.