The chapter opens by rejecting common myths about only children—being spoiled, selfish, troubled, or lonely—citing research showing only children are often creative, well-adjusted, and socially adept. It explains how outdated professional warnings, parental guilt, and unchosen one-child circumstances once fueled overprotection and reinforced the stereotype.

The narrative then frames one-child families as compatible with modern work-life balance, echoing Margaret Mead’s prediction that one child can reduce role strain. Advantages include fewer years tied to childcare, easier integration of the child into adult routines, more one-to-one parent–child time, and quieter, simpler household logistics.

Potential downsides are addressed: some only children may lack built-in companionship and some may attract excessive parental focus. The guidance is to arrange rich peer contact, avoid smothering, and support independence so the child can thrive.

Turning to the second-child decision, the author warns that enjoyment of one child does not predictably double with two; stress and costs often surge. Couples are urged to test motives (e.g., pressure, need for change, sex preference), assess finances and time, and consider alternative ways to fulfill desires for companionship or gendered experiences.

Considering a third child, Jocelyn and Matt’s case illustrates mixed longing and fear despite solid support. The chapter contrasts this with Alina and Jake, who pursue a second without budgeting (“Don’t Confuse Me with the Facts”), risking financial strain and loss of a valued caregiving arrangement. The recommended counter is honest budgeting, motive-checking, income strategies, and, if stopping at one, grieving the imagined child and embracing the one-child family. Practical tips include planning for help, refresher classes, and preparing the first child if a sibling is coming.