Chapter 10: Solving Fertility Problems

Summary

• The chapter provides psychological advice for individuals and couples dealing with infertility and decision-making in the fertility treatment journey.
• Definition of infertility varies depending on age: the inability to conceive or carry to term within a year for those under 35, and within six months for those over 35.
• Pregnancy loss, often referred to as "miscarriage," is a significant event and often followed by successful pregnancies.
• Post-pregnancy loss should include emotional and physical self-care, understanding feelings and preparing for potentially hurtful comments.
• Rather than dismissing worries or trying to cheer up those experiencing pregnancy loss, society needs to offer support and compassion as their fears are normal and understandable.
• Couples are encouraged to keep in mind that fertility treatments do not necessarily indicate a serious issue and are simply meant to gather information about fertility status.
• It's imperative to work with a Reproductive Endocrinologist when dealing with fertility issues and to consider different treatment options.
• Infertility treatments are often exhaustive and potentially expensive; thus, psychological support through therapy and stress management techniques is advised.
• A lack of belief in a successful pregnancy is normal after a confirmed pregnancy, following a struggle with infertility.
• When deciding to stop treatment, couples should consider their mental, physical, and financial exhaustion. They can choose to take a break, get a second opinion, and meet with their medical team to devise a plan.
• Couples are encouraged to execute "Values Clarification" exercises to identify their readiness to stop or willingness to try new treatments.
• Allowing oneself to grieve and emotionally connect to the losses related to infertility can bring relief and make it easier to stop treatments.